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Effective Tips on How to Help Your Spouse With Depression

How to Help Your Spouse with Depression
Is your spouse harboring feelings of persistent helplessness, hopelessness, anger, or sadness. Have you observed a change in his/her appetite, sleep cycle and other daily activities? If yes, then read ahead for some effective tips on how to help your spouse overcome depression.
Rohan Kadu
Last Updated: Dec 03, 2018
Did You Know?
Depressed Individual
According to the World Health Organization (WHO), depression is a common mental disorder. Worldwide, about 350 million people of all ages suffer from it and it is the leading cause of disability; it is a major contributor to the overall global burden of disease.
Be on the Same Team
Tackling Depression as a Team
Know that it is the illness that is the foe and not your partner. Try to deal with the depression as a team, which will help your spouse in not feeling isolated.
Working towards the perfect body
Take an active part in helping your depressed spouse feel better by going along with him for jogging, to the gym, or going to the doctor as a couple.
Paying for visit
Seek the help of a close friend or therapist for moral support in case you feel overwhelmed by the illness.
Help Your Partner in Getting a Proper Medical Examination
Couple Traveling in the car
Often, the depression will lead the spouse to be in denial in seeking help. It is then up to you to show patience in dealing with the illness, and recommend an action plan.
Marriage therapy because of infertility
Take the initiative to seek a doctor's appointment, and explain to your spouse that you are there with him/her, and will provide all the care you can in the treatment for the condition.
Give Your Spouse Time and Space to Go Through the Bad Phase
Wife placing blanket over husband
There will be times when, no matter how much dedication or love you feel for your spouse, he will have bad days.
Oh honey you have a fever!
He won't comply to your plans to watch a movie or have lunch together. All he'll want to do is mope around being a hopeless creature and stay like that until you fall asleep. These things happen. At such trying times, use your concern to get help, and motivate your partner in seeing his self worth; just let him be.
Understand What He/She Truly Desires
Couple sharing an ice-cream
Genuinely ask your spouse what he requires at that moment. If it's possible, just give the thing he asks for. It could be anything from his favorite flavor of Sundae to seeing his best-loved television show. Create a list of things he likes, and offer one of the items whenever he feels depressed.
Keep Yourself Updated With Information About Depression
Couple seeking doctor's advice
Read as much information as you can about depression. Ask your doctor about the stages involved in treatment, and get a thorough understanding of depression through whatever medium you can get. The more you know, the better you can cope with your depressed spouse.
Take Care of Yourself
Couple engaged in their own activity
Don't sacrifice your own personal needs while tackling with your spouse's issues.
You are entitled to spend your time pursuing meaningful interests in addition to deserving everyday niceties, like a clean surrounding in your house, timely meals and having a social life. Note that you may not be immune to depression yourself. So, balancing your personal pleasures with those of your spouse's will better equip you for managing the condition.