Where Does it Stem From?
Individuals who dread rejection are found to have a troubled childhood. They never felt loved by their parents or other family members. The constant comparison with their siblings or other kids induces a feeling that if they are not perfect, they will not be loved.
Thus, these kids try to imitate the behavior of the ones who they admire. This is a frantic attempt to fulfill others' expectations so that they are accepted within the group and eventually loved. In the process, they shed their true identity and try to become what people want them to be.
This has very negative repercussions on the psyche of the kid. These kids then grow up to become adults who turn out to be 'yes men'. Low self-esteem is the most significant personality trait observed in these people.
Although, there are no unique symptoms for this particular condition, these people do exhibit a peculiar behavioral pattern. Such people are not ready to openly communicate and never express their views on a certain topic; more so if their views happen to be different from the people they are trying to please.
They find it hard to say 'no' to the people they are trying to please. They even keep their personal feelings hidden. Anxiety of rejection in relationships often stems from previously failed relationships or rejections. These people are wary of initiating a new relationship or simply asking someone out.
They fear that they might be turned down. If they are already in a relationship they might take it too seriously too early, which might drive the other person away. These people often associate words like 'loser', 'incapable', 'pathetic' etc. with rejection. This hampers their self-esteem in the long run.
They are often manipulated and taken undue advantage of by others, mainly those who have a strong impact on them. The concerned person bends at their will, every now and then the others have a good laugh at the victim's expense. No matter how hard a person behaves as per the wishes of those who influence him, he is never allowed in their inner circle.
People can only be truly happy when they love the way they are. Interestingly, people will also love you only if you come across as a genuine person, someone who is true to himself.
"It is not rejection itself that people fear, it is the possible consequences of rejection. Preparing to accept those consequences and viewing rejection as a learning experience that will bring you closer to success, will not only help you to conquer the fear of rejection, but help you to appreciate rejection itself."